Studies show that most people acknowledge that their lives are really out of balance. People tend to focus so much on work and any other pressing activities that the relationships and activities they really treasure most end up getting squeezed and pushed aside.
A Story To Share With.......(a friend told me)
I have always had a special friendship with my mother. Together we endured a series of life events that has created a wonderful relationship. At one time in my life, even though I love my mother and really enjoyed spending time with her, I got caught up in my commitments to work, the community, and to my own family.
My life got so busy, and I could not make a quick phone call. Another meeting to go to, another deadline to meet. My contact with this wonderful woman became hit and miss.
My mother never put any pressure on me to visit more often, but I was not happy with the situation, because I knew my life was out of control if I couldn't consistently spend my time with my mother. So my wife and I brainstormed for a solution, and she suggested scheduling a time each week or so that would work for both our family and my mother.
Now my mother knows that every week or two I will be coming on a specific time. If she wants to get some exercise, we go for a walk together. Other times she'll cook a meal for me. Sometimes I take her shopping at the mall, which is further away than she feels comfortable driving to. No matter what we do, we always talk - about family, current events, about memories.
Every evening I spend with my mother is a peaceful oasis in my busy life. I tell my wife it's one of the best suggestions she's ever given me.
When my father passed away, I decided I was going to maintain and even increase my very special relationship with my mother because of the new void in her life. I resolved that no matter where I was, I would call her every day for the rest her life. Though we lived miles apart, I would also make special efforts to visit her at least every two weeks. She lived for another ten years and I cannot begin to express the depth of my gratitude for her life and for the preciousness of our time together.
Question: Are you too busy to be with your mom?
My life got so busy, and I could not make a quick phone call. Another meeting to go to, another deadline to meet. My contact with this wonderful woman became hit and miss.
My mother never put any pressure on me to visit more often, but I was not happy with the situation, because I knew my life was out of control if I couldn't consistently spend my time with my mother. So my wife and I brainstormed for a solution, and she suggested scheduling a time each week or so that would work for both our family and my mother.
Now my mother knows that every week or two I will be coming on a specific time. If she wants to get some exercise, we go for a walk together. Other times she'll cook a meal for me. Sometimes I take her shopping at the mall, which is further away than she feels comfortable driving to. No matter what we do, we always talk - about family, current events, about memories.
Every evening I spend with my mother is a peaceful oasis in my busy life. I tell my wife it's one of the best suggestions she's ever given me.
When my father passed away, I decided I was going to maintain and even increase my very special relationship with my mother because of the new void in her life. I resolved that no matter where I was, I would call her every day for the rest her life. Though we lived miles apart, I would also make special efforts to visit her at least every two weeks. She lived for another ten years and I cannot begin to express the depth of my gratitude for her life and for the preciousness of our time together.
Question: Are you too busy to be with your mom?
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